Blue Athletic Coaching Style
According to the simple assessment you just completed, the majority of your coaching strengths are associated with the Blue Temperament as defined by the Four Lenses/Insight Personality System.
This doesn’t mean that you have a primary temperament of Blue, but that you prefer to coach in Blue ways. This could be by choice or it could reflect the way you were trained. Either way, if you exclusively use this coaching style, you will be most effective with Blue athletes.
I want to instill in those I coach to try to be more perceptive, tolerant, friendly, considerate, and united.
As a coach, I believe it is important for players to be friendly and considerate of each other. It can help build camaraderie on the team, and also helps with the development of your team’s chemistry. I think it’s also important to encourage your players to make good decisions when they are off the field or off the court, but not get too involved in their personal lives. Once they’re off the team perhaps we can become friends and stay in contact. I know that it’s tough for some people to leave the team because they have grown so close to their teammates. That is why I feel it is important to remind players that there will always be another team.
The most obvious need for the coach is to have the necessary experience and skills to guide the team through the development process. The coach also has a responsibility to ensure that they are able to meet the needs of their team members. The coach should be aware of their own personal needs, and how these may affect their ability to assist their team. To assist in this process it is helpful to understand what makes a coach effective.
A coach can have all the skills, knowledge and experience to be successful, but still fail as a coach if they don’t perceive and meet the needs of each athlete. A coach must be able to discern and work with the strengths and weaknesses of each player to create the best possible team. Coaching is an art. It is not a science. There are no formulas or rules that can be applied in every situation. Coaches must make decisions based on their own experiences, their understanding of their athletes and their observations.
The coach must also have the ability to communicate effectively with their team members and other people involved with the team. Communication skills are very important for a coach to possess. It’s not just about being able to speak up in meetings and at practice–it’s being able to speak to the heart and soul of each team member. It also includes interacting with parents and other people who are involved with the team.
As a coach, I want everyone to feel significant, valued, and satisfied. I want every athlete to leave with a sense of achievement and accomplishment. I want them to have learned something new or improved upon something they’ve done before. I want them to be able to say, “I did that!” The goal of my coaching is to develop athletes who are prepared for the next level of competition in any sport. I strive to teach them how to play with a higher degree of awareness, skill, and technique, while at the same time instilling confidence in their abilities.
When correcting an athlete's mistake, I am usually non-combative, sympathetic, forgiving, and tolerant.
I know that sometimes athletes can be very hard on themselves when they make a mistake. This is especially true if the mistake is a big one, or if it is in a key area of performance such as technique, training, nutrition, recovery, or injury prevention. In these situations, I believe that athletes should take accountability for their mistakes and learn from them. However, this does not mean that I believe in punishment. Punishment is the way we teach people to be afraid of making mistakes. I believe there is no reason to get combative and aggressive when trying to coach athletes. What they need is encouragement to make adjustments and try again!
For example, if a player has a bad day, or a bad practice, or a bad game, why not have a short conversation with him about the event? A good coach doesn’t need to be a psychologist; he just needs to be able to relate to his players. There are some players that will only talk to their coaches if they are aggressive and aggressive, and this is a bad habit for them.
As a coach, when I sense a conflict brewing among the athletes, I try to diffuse it by promoting compromise, cooperation, and reconciliation. I ask everyone to be reasonable, respectful, and tolerant. When I see that two team members are at odds with each other, I try to diffuse it by asking them to consider what they both have to gain from reconciling their differences, rather than letting it play out and damage their relationship. Sadly, some people don’t like to compromise or conciliate, they have to win.
When I play on a team, I’ve found that my role is to be the one who is “in the middle” of the conflict, not on one side or the other. If I’m playing well, I’m trying to make sure my teammates are too. But when I coach a team, when the team is not playing well, it’s not enough to just be in the middle. I have to take a stand and provide leadership and guidance. The team has to trust that I will always tell them the truth and have their best interests in mind.
The best part about me is that I’m a people’s person, am friendly, and try to always have a positive attitude. I enjoy working with people, and I like to help others. I love to go out to lunch with those I coach and get to know them better. This gives me a chance to interact and communicate at a deeper level, to get to know their dreams and ambitions, as well as their fears and concerns. Once I understand them, and they can sense that I genuinely care about their well-being, then we can build a trusting relationship.
My approach is very different than many coaches’. I don’t push my athletes or try to get them to do things they are not comfortable doing. I want to help them find what they’re really passionate about and help them follow through on it. I work with people who are looking for direction, who want to be more successful in their sport, or who simply desire to feel better about themselves. My athletes always come first. They are my inspiration. I’m inspired by their success and the results they have achieved.
I nurture people. It doesn’t matter their age, I am interested helping them grow into their potential. Just like a gardener who takes care of a newly planted fruit tree, I want to see those I coach sink deep roots and sprout healthy limbs that eventually bear delicious fruit—outcomes that bring them joy, satisfaction, and a sense of accomplishment for years to come. To do that, I help them understand and master their own minds, emotions, and bodies. Once they understand how their thoughts, feelings, and actions affect others, they can use this understanding to transform their performance on the field, as well as every other aspect of their life.
Athletes are both physical and emotional beings, and their coaches need to be able to address both aspects of their life. To only focus on the physical while ignoring the emotional is a recipe for disaster. This means that I need to constantly increase my emotional intelligence in order to perceive and understand the feelings of my team. Furthermore, I need to learn a bit about psychology and try to adopt the best practices for helping people who are clearly in distress. Some athletes needs help with coping with the emotional ups and downs of competition, as well as the conflicts in their interpersonal interactions with other teammates, not to mention the various emotional burdens they bring to the field every day. That doesn’t mean I’m a good substitute for a therapist or a clinician, not even close. But it does mean I can demonstrate extra kindness, be a better listener, show more empathy, and help them carry their emotional burdens.
As a coach, I have faith in my ability to accommodate the diverse needs and preferences of athletes. Very few people have identical amounts of raw talent, experience level, determination, and athletic ability. This means can’t treat everyone identically. Some need extra encouragement, others need more incentives, still others need to learn things on their own. Bringing together these disparate individuals into a team can be challenging, but if they truly believe that I’m trying my best to accommodate their differences as much as possible, they will likely cut me a little slack when I come up short. That’s why my relationship with them is so important in an increasingly diverse world.
As a coach, I bring to my team affection, compassion, and communication. I am dedicated to providing my team with the best possible experience. I am passionate about helping my players develop and grow as individuals, and I aim to create a supportive environment where they can achieve their goals.
I encourage my athletes to, “Follow your heart.” This isn’t just an abstract statement. It’s about the type of person you are, deep down inside. If you are a football player, then play football! If you are a lover, then be one. If you are an artist, then paint. If you are a writer, then write! Follow your heart and don’t be afraid of failure.
How Blue Coaches Shine
- Acknowledging and appreciating the efforts of others
- Communicating with ease, warmth, and authenticity
- Helping others feel significant and good about themselves
- Being a peacemaker and a calming influence
- Championing the oppressed, abused, and neglected
- Helping people find their passion and purpose in life
- Recruiting volunteers to join and support their causes
- Giving people as much of their time as needed
- Encouraging others to express their individuality
- Building and strengthening interpersonal relationships
- Listening with genuine empathy and compassion
- Recognizing and drawing out the best in people
- Sacrificing personal desires for other people
- Getting individuals to work together and compromise
- Acting as a positive and inspirational mentor and role model
- Ministering to the needs of others unselfishly
- Bringing harmony and unity to the world
How Blue Coaches Cause Stress
- Being overly sentimental
- Wearing their feelings on their sleeves
- Talking too much
- Being too idealistic—not being realistic
- Not planning ahead and thinking about the future
- Reading too much into things
- Obsessing over minor hurtful comments
- Blowing things out of proportion
- Being too passive—not being assertive
- Being sugary sweet
- Being too generous or charitable
- Being too trusting, gullible, naïve
- Letting others make difficult decisions
- Suppressing unpleasant emotions until they explode
- Having difficulty in setting priorities and goals
- Being blindly loyal to undeserving people or causes
- Failing to see others’ point-of-view
- Avoiding conflict and confrontation
- Sweeping problems under the rug
- Being absorbed in the lives of other people
- Attempting to please everyone
- Lashing out at others when strained
- Overextending themselves
- Overindulging or spoiling other people
- Accepting abuse from other people
- Frequently talking about personal issues
How to Be a Better Coach
As a Blue coach, you probably possess some awesome qualities such as accessibility, compassion, friendliness, tolerance, and unity. These strengths come naturally to you and will help you find success. But have you maximized these virtues as well as the eight others that are associated with your temperament, or is there still room for improvement? And how are you doing at some of the other attributes that make coaches even more successful, such as concern, discipline, persistence, concentration, accuracy, efficiency, foresight, adaptability, candor, impact, and optimism?
If you would like to measure how much virtue you currently possess, then please complete the Maturity Assessment on this website. It is free to you as part of your subscription. Then, if you want to work on your weaknesses and turn them into strengths, check out the 7, 13-minute Gaining Virtue lessons on each of the 52 virtues. Before long, you will be even more successful!