Blue Athlete Style
According to the simple assessment you just completed, the majority of your strengths as an athlete are associated with the Blue Temperament as defined by the Four Lenses/Insight Personality System.
This doesn’t mean that you have a primary temperament of Blue, but that you prefer to act in Blue ways. This could be by choice, or it could reflect the way you were trained. Either way, if you exclusively use this style, you will be most effective with Blue coaches and athletes.
I want to be around people who are considerate, approachable, sympathetic, thoughtful, cooperative, communicative, and authentic
I believe athletes should be considerate of others, including other players, coaches, fans, and officials. This means I treat others with respect, listen when they are speaking, remember their names, offer help when they are in need, avoid foul or abusive language, consider their needs before making decisions, and are willing to change my mind if the situation warrants.
It is important to appear authentic, approachable, and easy to get along with. I do this by being aware of how I am coming across to others. I try to be good-natured and friendly, wear a smile, make eye contact, and let them know I notice them. Then they will feel more comfortable with me and will be more likely to be open and honest.
Athletes should be willing to communicate freely with their coaches and teammates. We are all the product of a team effort, and we must work cooperatively with each other to achieve success. Unofficial and natural conversations are one of the best ways to gain information about a person’s character and personality traits. I ask questions that get people talking about themselves. I find out things about them that otherwise wouldn’t have been known. This allows me to figure out their strengths and weaknesses and helps me figure out ways to better work together. If team members are not working well together, it can create problems and cause conflict. This can be very harmful for the sport as well as my relationships.
It is important to be sympathetic and compassionate to your teammates, especially those who are struggling. Everyone needs a little kindness during times of stress, which I can easily spot when they start acting in unusual or unexpected ways. Everyone feels overwhelmed and frustrated from time to time, so it is crucial to take a moment to offer some encouragement and let them know that they are not alone.
The best attitude to have while playing sports is to remain humble and coachable while giving your team your best efforts
I try to constantly remain humble, modest, and coachable. When I make a mistake, I try to not let it ruin my entire day. I’ve found the best way to deal with a situation like this is to acknowledge my error, apologize, and do my best to not repeat the same mistake in the future. To be a great athlete, you need to get rid of unhelpful pride, arrogance, and self-centeredness and learn to pay attention to counsel, advice, and constructive criticism. I resist the instinctive urge to take correction personally. Instead, I’ve learned it is important to take a breather before reacting and give their advice some serious consideration—it might actually improve my game. The truth is that there is no such thing as an all-knowing athlete who can get everything right every time. We all need to understand that we, and our teams, and our coaches, and the officials, and the fans are not perfect and that everyone has room for improvement.
When communicating with others I am a good listener who is sensitive to how words and body language affect people
I believe good communication is one of the most important tools of an athlete. People who are good listeners are able to listen to what other people are saying without interrupting them. They are also able to read the non-verbal cues that people give off to determine if they are happy, sad, angry, or scared, etc. Body language is important because it conveys information and can also be used to understand what’s happening in the mind of others. For example, when I am with someone who is upset, I might notice that they have a slumped posture, and their shoulders are hunched up. This is a sign that they are feeling uncomfortable and that they want to get away from the situation. On the other hand, when I am with someone who is happy, I notice that they have a smile on their face and their shoulders are relaxed. This means that they are comfortable with the situation and are feeling good.
When someone is talking, I try to remain attentive and respectful. I don’t have to agree with them, but I should at least try to understand what they’re saying and their point-of-view. If I find myself starting to interrupt, I try to back off and let them finish their sentence. When any of us have something to say to someone else, we should always wait until they are finished before speaking. We should also be careful not to start a conversation with someone that is not willing to hear us out.
I am able to bring to a team a passion for interaction and a knack for truly understanding others. My unstated role on a team is to connect with people on a personal level, even those who have a reputation for being difficult to get along with. I see beauty in the human soul and in the soul of others. I understand that there is beauty in everything, even things that are ugly and disheveled. I am able to appreciate the good in people who may seem unappealing to others. This makes me, and others like me, excellent team players who are able to get along with everyone.
I also understand that everyone deserves little acts of kindness from time to time, as well as other forms of genuine compassion. This is an appropriate form of affection which shows I am interested in their well-being and recognize their spoken and unspoken needs. This form of connection always builds trust and respect between people, greatly strengthening the bonds and camaraderie in a team. It is also one of the most fulfilling and enjoyable parts a relationship.
I am a very warm person with an open mind and a desire to help others. I enjoy being around people and feel connected to others when I am in a social situation. I have great respect for the opinions and feelings of others and try to see things from their perspective. I try to understand and appreciate the reasons behind people’s actions. I try to be understanding of the shortcomings and foibles of others and accept them for who they are. I am not judgmental and do not have an issue with people who are different or who choose to live their lives differently than me.
In a sports team, everyone has different roles to play, and should feel a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment when they do their job well. As someone who is interested in the welfare of my team, my unofficial job is to help others feel like they are contributing to the success of the team. That’s why it is important to have a team culture that fosters collaboration, encourages communication, and establishes an environment where people are encouraged to share their ideas. Building a culture takes like that takes time and effort, but it always pays off with higher morale and a sense of belonging.
Some coaches seem to be more interested in winning than in the health and well-being of their players. I don’t care how much a coach knows until I know how much they care. I am looking for a coach who will inspire me to improve my game and become a better person. I want a coach who will help me to find out who I really am and who will help me to become the person that I want to be. And they don’t do that by screaming, exploding, ranting, or other aggressive behaviors. While coaches should be assertive, disciplined, and professional, they should approach their players as friends and colleagues and not as pawns to be sacrificed throughout their coaching career. Coaches should never fight with their players, but instead win over their hearts and minds with persuasion and inspiration. While helping their players become more successful in the game, coaches should also allow their players to be human and freely express their emotions without fear of judgment or reprisal. Keeping negative feelings bottled up only generates angst and anger.
When given the chance to lead, I normally try to promote compromise, cooperation, and reconciliation
When I am given the opportunity to provide leadership to my team, I generally like to stay clear of the spotlight and lead from behind or from within the ranks. I am more democratic than most in my leadership approach and often let every player have a chance to express their thoughts and emotions. When there is a conflict, I am far more likely to encourage players to compromise and cooperate rather than become unkind or offensive to one another. If feelings are hurt, I nudge them to quickly reconcile their differences and recapture the spirit of unity and harmony that makes good teams great. I particularly like opportunities to look after less-experienced players and work with those who need extra help. I try to inspire everyone to find their purpose and passion and then improve their skills until they achieve it.
It is important to plant, nurture, and enrich friendly and thoughtful relationships with everyone in your sphere of influence, even if you’ve had a really bad game or a losing streak. For example, do not be afraid to show emotion in the locker room, but do not act like a petulant child or an immature, self-absorbed fool. If you feel something, say it, but be careful of your words and their impact. It is always best to discuss a situation privately if it only involves a single person. Do not act in a way that would be detrimental to your team such as going on social media and posting negative comments about your coaches or teammates, and even your opponents. Others may see the comments and start to question your motives and wonder about your character or the overall integrity of your entire team. You never want to say or do anything that has the potential to harm or damage a relationship, even if that relationship doesn’t matter much to you at the moment. You never know if you’re about to burn a bridge you will later need to cross.
I feel that the best way to be successful in a team sport is to focus on your individual strengths and weaknesses and use them to help the team as much as possible. The best coaches I’ve ever seen are ones who focus on what each player can do to make the team better and allow everyone to shine in their own ways. I want to be on a team with coaches and athletes who actively try to complement each other’s skills and personalities and appreciate their diverse talents and strengths. Everyone is unique and should be recognized for their one-of-a-kind contributions. We may not always get this right, but I think it’s important to try.
While sports are played by athletes on the field, track, gym, pool, court, rink, course, ring, or arena, there is another side of sports which can be enjoyed by anyone. It’s the social side of sports. When it comes to the social side of sports, it is important for a player to have friends and family around. These people have known you for so long that they can be counted on to give moral support through good times and bad. They are your primary support network. Your secondary support network is your fans or followers who also tend to be supportive, especially during a winning streak. Modern players use social media to stay in touch with their audience. It’s important to have both of these networks in your corner because you never know when one will leave or withdraw their support. This can happen to anyone, and authentic supporters who have a relationship with you will help keep you focused and playing at your best.
How Blue Athletes Shine
- Acknowledging and appreciating the efforts of others
- Communicating with ease, warmth, and authenticity
- Helping others feel significant and good about themselves
- Being a peacemaker and a calming influence
- Championing the oppressed, abused, and neglected
- Helping people find their passion and purpose in life
- Recruiting volunteers to join and support their causes
- Giving people as much of their time as needed
- Encouraging others to express their individuality
- Building and strengthening interpersonal relationships
- Listening with genuine empathy and compassion
- Recognizing and drawing out the best in people
- Sacrificing personal desires for other people
- Getting individuals to work together and compromise
- Acting as a positive and inspirational mentor and role model
- Ministering to the needs of others unselfishly
- Bringing harmony and unity to the world
How Blue Athletes Cause Stress
- Being overly sentimental
- Wearing their feelings on their sleeves
- Talking too much
- Being too idealistic—not being realistic
- Not planning ahead and thinking about the future
- Reading too much into things
- Obsessing over minor hurtful comments
- Blowing things out of proportion
- Being too passive—not being assertive
- Being sugary sweet
- Being too generous or charitable
- Being too trusting, gullible, naïve
- Letting others make difficult decisions
- Suppressing unpleasant emotions until they explode
- Having difficulty in setting priorities and goals
- Being blindly loyal to undeserving people or causes
- Failing to see others’ point-of-view
- Avoiding conflict and confrontation
- Sweeping problems under the rug
- Being absorbed in the lives of other people
- Attempting to please everyone
- Lashing out at others when strained
- Overextending themselves
- Overindulging or spoiling other people
- Accepting abuse from other people
- Frequently talking about personal issues
How to Be a Better Athlete
As a Blue athlete, you probably possess some awesome qualities such as accessibility, compassion, friendliness, tolerance, and unity. These strengths come naturally to you and will help you find success. But have you maximized these virtues as well as the eight others that are associated with your temperament, or is there still room for improvement? And how are you doing at some of the other attributes that make athletes even more successful, such as concern, discipline, persistence, concentration, accuracy, efficiency, foresight, adaptability, candor, impact, and optimism?
If you would like to measure how much virtue you currently possess, then please complete the Maturity Assessment on this website. It is free to you as part of your subscription. Then, if you want to work on your weaknesses and turn them into strengths, check out the 7, 13-minute Gaining Virtue lessons on each of the 52 virtues. Before long, you will be even more successful!